successfulmarriageisthemosteffectiveformofsocialsupport.itrelievestheeffectsofstress,andleadstobettermentalandphysicalhealth.husbandsseemtobenefitmuchmorefrommarriagethenwivesdo.
marriedwomenareinbetterphysicalandmentalhealth,andarehappierthansinglewomen,buttheseeffectsarenearlytwiceasgreatformen.variouseplanationshavebeenconsidered,butthemostplausibleisthatwivesprovidemoresocialsupportthanhusbands.perhapsmenneeditmore?
theyaremoreeposedtostressesatwork,andhaveworsehealthanddieearlierthenwomen.inaddition,whenwomengetmarried,theirwayoflifeissubjecttomuchgreaterchangeandthisoftenleadstoboringandisolatedworkinthehomeforwhichtheyareill-prepared.despitethebenefitsofmarriagewomenfinditstressfulandinbettershapeiftheyalsohavejobs,theirearningsandstatusincreasetheirpowerinthehome,andtheymayalsogetsocialsupportatwork.
Whenitcomestolatermarriage,people’sopinionsvaryenormously.Weknowthatasagraduatestudent,latermarriagewouldbeaproblemforusafterwegraduated,especiallygirls.
Ourattitudetowardslatermarriagebecomesgraduallyrationalandmature.Weknowthatloveisnotjustholdinghandsandwalkingdownthestreet,MarriageishowLovecanmakepeoplebecomealtruistic.Frommyperspective,itisimmaturitythatleadstothisphenomenon.Firstlyyoungadultsarenotfinanciallypreparedtohastenintomarriage.Theeconomicburdenwilllikelyputastrainontothecouple'srelationship,leadingpossiblytobreaches,orworse,separation.Secondlyyoungadultshavenotattainedthelevelofmaturitytoraisechildren.Theyareoftenunawareoftheresponsibilitiesandsacrificesthatoneneedstomakeinordertostartafamilyofone'sown.Thirdlystatisticsaregoodindicatorsfortheinstabilityandshortlifespansofprematuremarriages.OnlyOnlyinthiswaycanweembraceahappyandbrilliantfuture.
ThereisaheateddiscussionthesedayssinceChineseon-campusstudentsarelegallyallowedtogetmarriedbeforetheycompletetheircourses.Somepeopleapplaudthisnewdevelopmentwhileothershaveexpressedtheirconcernaboutthis.
Ontheonehand,collegestudentswillinevitablyhavelesstimeandenergyfortheiracademiclifebecausemarriedstudentshavemorerealisticproblemstodealwiththanthoseunmarriedones.Ontheotherhand,anumberofstudentsdohaveadesireforanidealmarriage.Theyareoldenoughtotaketheresponsibilityandiftheyhandleitwell,marriagecanbringthemhappinessandasenseofsecurity.
Inmyopinion,itisunnecessarytoforbidon-campusstudentstogetmarried;however,itshouldn'tbeadvocatedorencouraged,either.Thereasonisthat,foron-campusstudents,theirmaintaskistoacquireknowledge.Iftheygetmarried,thefamilychoresmightdistractthemfromstudying,thustheymaynotgraduatefavorablyormaynotbecapableoffutureworks.Ibelievealmostallon-campusstudentswoulddealwiththequestionreasonably.