youareasking,isitpossibletobemarriedandtobefree?
ifyoutakemarriagenon-seriously,thenyoucanbefree.ifyoutakeitseriously,thenfreedomisimpossible.takemarriagejustasagame--itisagame.havealittlesenseofhumor,thatitisaroleyouareplayingonthestageoflife;butitisnotsomethingthatbelongstoexistenceorhasanyreality--itisafiction.butpeoplearesostupidthattheyevenstarttakingfictionforreality.ihaveseenpeoplereadingfictionwithtearsintheireyes,becauseinthefictionthingsaregoingsotragically.itisaverygooddeviceinthemoviesthattheyputthelightsoff,soeverybodycanenjoythemovie,laugh,cry,besad,behappy.
iftherewaslightitwouldbealittledifficult--whatwillothersthink?andtheyknowperfectlywellthatthescreenisempty--thereisnobody;itisjustaprojectedpicture.buttheyforgetitcompletely.andthesamehashappenedwithourlives.manythingswhicharesimplytobetakenhumorously,wetakesoseriously--andfromthatseriousnessbeginsourproblem.inthefirstplace,whyshouldyougetmarried?youlovesomeone,livewithsomeone--itispartofyourbasicrights.youcanlivewithsomeone,youcanlovesomeone.
marriageisnotsomethingthathappensinheaven,ithappenshere,throughthecraftypriests.butifyouwanttojointhegamewithsocietyanddontwanttostandaloneandaloof,youmakeitcleartoyourwifeortoyourhusbandthatthismarriageisjustagame:nevertakeitseriously.iwillremainasindependentasiwasbeforemarriage,andyouwillremainasindependentasyouwerebeforemarriage.neitheriamgoingtointerfereinyourlife,norareyougoingtointerfereinmylife;wewillliveastwofriendstogether,sharingourjoys,sharingourfreedom--butnotbecomingaburdenoneachother.andanymomentwefeelthatthespringhaspassed,thehoneymoonisover,wewillbesincereenoughnottogoonpretending,buttosaytoeachotherthatwelovedmuch--andwewillremaingratefultoeachotherforever,andthedaysoflovewillhauntusinourmemories,inourdreams,asgolden--butthespringisover.ourpathshavecometoapoint,wherealthoughitissad,wehavetopart,becausenow,livingtogetherisnotasignoflove.ifiloveyou,iwillleaveyouthemomentiseemylovehasbecomeamiserytoyou.ifyouloveme,youwillleavemethemomentyouseethatyourloveiscreatinganimprisonmentforme.
Whenitcomestolatermarriage,people’sopinionsvaryenormously.Weknowthatasagraduatestudent,latermarriagewouldbeaproblemforusafterwegraduated,especiallygirls.
Ourattitudetowardslatermarriagebecomesgraduallyrationalandmature.Weknowthatloveisnotjustholdinghandsandwalkingdownthestreet,MarriageishowLovecanmakepeoplebecomealtruistic.Frommyperspective,itisimmaturitythatleadstothisphenomenon.Firstlyyoungadultsarenotfinanciallypreparedtohastenintomarriage.Theeconomicburdenwilllikelyputastrainontothecouple'srelationship,leadingpossiblytobreaches,orworse,separation.Secondlyyoungadultshavenotattainedthelevelofmaturitytoraisechildren.Theyareoftenunawareoftheresponsibilitiesandsacrificesthatoneneedstomakeinordertostartafamilyofone'sown.Thirdlystatisticsaregoodindicatorsfortheinstabilityandshortlifespansofprematuremarriages.OnlyOnlyinthiswaycanweembraceahappyandbrilliantfuture.
LifeisfullofconfusinganddisorderingParticulartime,aparticularlocation,Dothearrangedthingoftenmilliontimeinthebrain,Stepbystep,thelifeishardtoavoiddelicacyandstiffnessNoenthusiasmforever,NounexpectedhappeningofsurprisingandpleasingSo,onlysilentlyaskmyselfinmindNexthappiness,whenwillcome?
人生的纷纷扰扰，杂杂乱乱，在一个特定的时间，特定的地点，做脑海中安排了千万遍的事，一步一骤，人生难免精致，却也死板，永远没有激情，没有意料之外的惊喜。于是，也只有在心里默默地问：下一班幸福，几点开？
Whenourfamilyrelationship,friendship,loveandpersonalrelationshipbecamefourcupsdifferentthickandSubtletea,Atpushacuptochange,alwayshaveabsentmindedhesitation:Whichonearthcupthatissupposedtobefirstdegustedinthebesttastetime,whichfinalcup?Thenthedifferentpersonalwayshaveadifferentchoice.Bigcustomsunderofthesmallcustomsisalwaysnotallowed,sticktoafinaltwist,alwayswishtoobtainanadditionalhappiness
当我们的亲情、友情、爱情和私情变成了四杯浓淡不一的茶，在推杯换盏间，总有恍惚的迟疑：究竟哪一杯该在味道最好的时候先品，哪一杯该排到最后呢？然后不同的人总有不同的选择。大世俗下的小世俗总是不被允许，坚持到最后，总会获得一份额外的幸福。
Darklight,justlighteachother.Theresponsibilitythatyouandmyshoulderstaketogether,thesuchasonedustcoversup.AfraidonlyafraidthelightissuddenlyputoutintheendlessdarknightandCountlessloneliness
暗黄的灯光，仅仅也只能照射过彼此。你、我肩上共同担当的责任，犹如一片灰尘遮掩。怕只怕灯丝的突然熄灭在这无尽的黑夜.数不尽的'孤单
Alwaysinsisting.Useironscoopistoocold;Useporcelainscoopistooweak;Awoodscoop,engravedveinssafely,engravedsky’swastelandandglebe’sold.Justashappinessbornintheyears,notinsolent,theeveryactandmovebloomsquietly
一直坚持着。用铁勺太冰冷；用瓷勺又太脆弱；一只只木勺，刻出了纹理安然，刻出了天荒地老。一如岁月中隐忍着的幸福，不张狂，举手投足间悄然绽放
Hopeisalwaysmoreexpect,engraveaboneisafatlotlookedClearcantouch,justdontknowwhereendis.Cannotfindtocometotheroadofhour,justbecauseofeyingfoottooverycarefully.
希望总是多过盼望，刻骨而又络络可见，清晰可触，只是不知道终结在哪儿。找不到来时的路，只是因为太小心翼翼的注视脚下。
ThenthewanderingsoulwildcranestandsstillthememoryriverListentowhistleplaytightlyringslowly,Waterrisesashiptogomediumlongthingsofthepast.Waitforaship’spersonWaitforoneandother,ButhesitatealwaysshouldascendwhichshipMissedHadtoconsignthehopetonexttime,Finallywhattowaitforuntilhasnoboatsandshipstocomeandgo,Sunsetwest.
再孤魂野鹤的伫立记忆河头，听着哨子的紧奏慢响，水涨船行中的悠悠往事。等船的人儿，等了一班又一班，却始终犹豫着该登哪一只。错过的，只好把希望寄托到了下一回，终究等到的是没有船只的过往，日落西头。
Sixwordsreallytalktosolveeachroundtoreturntobitterness.Heartoflotusopens,bodysideofgenialbreezeswalks.Constantly,onlyonepondwater.Ripplebuthavenolanguage,guardedhappinessofthispond.Thisisfromcradletothegraveonealifetime
六字真言解每一个轮回苦。心头荷花开，身畔暖风走。不变的，只有那一池水。荡漾而无语，守住了这一池的幸福。这就是一生一世
Happinessissomuchsimple,onyourcenterofpalm,amatchahandcangrasp;Happinessisalsoverydifficult,beforeyourheel,AthousandmountainsandriversbutblunderawaybecauseofDoingnotturnahead
幸福好简单，就在你手心上，一合手就能握住；幸福又好难，就在你脚跟前，千山万水却因没有转头而错失
Neverbelieve,nextwillbebetter,Blunderaway,neverrepairreturnofregret.Evenmetthegodofshininginadream,Neverask:"Nexthappiness,whenwillcome?"
千万不要相信，下一个会更好，错失了，就是补不回的遗憾。即使在梦中，遇见了那熠熠的神明，也永远不要问：“下一班幸福，几点开？"
美文赏析:Thesecretstohappiness通往幸福的秘密
我们一直在寻找，寻找幸福的密码，走上幸福的阶梯，开启幸福的大门。可是，什么是幸福呢？是腰缠万贯？众星捧月？还是平平淡淡才是真？就让我们一起来解读幸福的秘密吧。
ThereisaheateddiscussionthesedayssinceChineseon-campusstudentsarelegallyallowedtogetmarriedbeforetheycompletetheircourses.Somepeopleapplaudthisnewdevelopmentwhileothershaveexpressedtheirconcernaboutthis.
Ontheonehand,collegestudentswillinevitablyhavelesstimeandenergyfortheiracademiclifebecausemarriedstudentshavemorerealisticproblemstodealwiththanthoseunmarriedones.Ontheotherhand,anumberofstudentsdohaveadesireforanidealmarriage.Theyareoldenoughtotaketheresponsibilityandiftheyhandleitwell,marriagecanbringthemhappinessandasenseofsecurity.
Inmyopinion,itisunnecessarytoforbidon-campusstudentstogetmarried;however,itshouldn'tbeadvocatedorencouraged,either.Thereasonisthat,foron-campusstudents,theirmaintaskistoacquireknowledge.Iftheygetmarried,thefamilychoresmightdistractthemfromstudying,thustheymaynotgraduatefavorablyormaynotbecapableoffutureworks.Ibelievealmostallon-campusstudentswoulddealwiththequestionreasonably.
On-campusMarriage
ThereisaheateddiscussionthesedayssinceChineseon-campusstudentsarelegallyallowedtogetmarriedbeforetheycompletetheircourses.Somepeopleapplaudthisnewdevelopmentwhileothershaveexpressedtheirconcernaboutthis.
Ontheonehand,collegestudentswillinevitablyhavelesstimeandenergyfortheiracademiclifebecausemarriedstudentshavemorerealisticproblemstodealwiththanthoseunmarriedones.Ontheotherhand,anumberofstudentsdohaveadesireforanidealmarriage.Theyareoldenoughtotaketheresponsibilityandiftheyhandleitwell,marriagecanbringthemhappinessandasenseofsecurity.
Inmyopinion,itisunnecessarytoforbidon-campusstudentstogetmarried;however,itshouldn'tbeadvocatedorencouraged,either.Thereasonisthat,foron-campusstudents,theirmaintaskistoacquireknowledge.Iftheygetmarried,thefamilychoresmightdistractthemfromstudying,thustheymaynotgraduatefavorablyormaynotbecapableoffutureworks.Ibelievealmostallon-campusstudentswoulddealwiththequestionreasonably.(180words)
Amanandhisgirlfriendweremarried.Itwasalargecelebration.
Alloftheirfriendsandfamilycametoseethelovelyceremonyandtopartakeofthefestivitiesandcelebrations.Allhadawonderfultime.
Thebridewasgorgeousinherwhiteweddinggownandthegroomwasverydashinginhisblacktuxedo.Everyonecouldtellthatthelovetheyhadforeachotherwastrue.
Afewmonthslater,thewifecametothehusbandwithaproposal,"Ireadinamagazine,awhileago,abouthowwecanstrengthenourmarriage,"sheoffered."Eachofuswillwritealistofthethingsthatwefindabitannoyingwiththeotherperson.Then,wecantalkabouthowwecanfixthemtogetherandmakeourliveshappiertogether."
Thehusbandagreed.Soeachofthemwenttoaseparateroominthehouseandthoughtofthethingsthatannoyedthemabouttheother.Theythoughtaboutthisquestionfortherestofthedayandwrotedownwhattheycameupwith.
Thenextmorning,atthebreakfasttable,theydecidedthattheywouldgoovertheirlists.
"I'llstart,"offeredthewife.Shetookoutherlist.Ithadmanyitemsonit,enoughtofill3pages.Infact,asshestartedreadingthelistofthelittleannoyances,shenoticedthattearswerestartingtoappearinherhusband'seyes.
"What'swrong?"sheasked."Nothing,"thehusbandreplied,"keepreadingyourlist."
Thewifecontinuedtoreaduntilshehadreadallthreepagestoherhusband.Sheneatlyplacedherlistonthetableandfoldedherhandsoverthetopofit.
"Now,youreadyourlistandthenwe'lltalkaboutthethingsonbothofourlists,"shesaidhappily.
Quietlythehusbandstated,"Idon'thaveanythingonmylist.Ithinkthatyouareperfectthewaythatyouare.Idon'twantyoutochangeanythingforme.YouarelovelyandwonderfulandIwouldn'twanttotryandchangeanythingaboutyou."
Thewife,touchedbyhishonestyandthedepthofhisloveforherandhisacceptanceofher,turnedherheadandwept.
Inlife,thereareenoughtimeswhenwearedisappointed,depressedandannoyed.Wedon'treallyhavetogolookingforthem.Wehaveawonderfulworldthatisfullofbeauty,lightandpromise.Whywastetimeinthisworldlookingforthebad,disappointingorannoyingwhenwecanlookaroundus,andseethewondrousthingsbeforeus?
一个男人和他的女朋友结婚，举行了一场盛大的结婚庆典。
所有的朋友和家人都来到结婚典礼上参加欢宴和庆祝活动。大家都过得很开心。
穿着白色婚纱的新娘漂亮迷人，穿着黑色礼服的新郎英俊潇洒。每个人都能看出他们彼此的爱是真诚的。
几个月后，妻子走近丈夫提议说：“我刚才在杂志上看到一篇文章，说的是怎样巩固婚姻。”她说：“我们两个人都各自把对方的小毛病列在一张纸上，然后我们商量一下怎样解决，以便使我们的生活更幸福。”
丈夫同意了。于是他们各自走向不同的房间去想对方的缺点。那一天余下的时间里，他们都在思考这个问题，并且把他们想到的都写下来。
第二天早上，吃早饭的时候，他们决定谈谈彼此的缺点。
“我先开始吧。”妻子说。她拿出她的单子，上面列举了很多条，事实上，足足写满了三页。当她开始念的时候，她注意到丈夫眼里含着泪花。
“怎么啦?”她问。“没什么，”丈夫答道，“继续念吧。”
妻子又接着念。整整三页都念完之后她把单子整齐地放在桌上，两手交叉放在上面。
“现在该你念了，然后我们谈谈所列举的缺点。”她高兴地说。
丈夫平静地说：“我什么也没写，我觉得像你这样就很完美了，我不想让你为我改变什么。你很可爱迷人，我不想让你改变。”
妻子被丈夫的诚实和对她深深的爱和接纳感动了，她转过头去哭起来。
生命中我们有很多的失望、沮丧和烦恼，我们根本不需要寻找。我们美妙的世界充满了美丽、光明、希望。但是，当我们放眼四周时，为什么浪费时间寻找不快、失望和烦恼，而看不到我们面前的美好事物呢？
美文赏析:幸福就是投入
姜太公钓鱼——愿者上钩。幸福是什么？仁者见仁吧。真正的幸福或许就是没有目的的投入，知足常乐哦。
幸福就是投入
Underthescorchingsun,anoldmansatbythebankstaringatthebuoyontheriver.Fromdawntoduskhestillgotnothinginhishands.However,theoldmanwashappyatease.Ifeltsopuzzledaboutit.
Theoldmansaidwithasmile，”I’mthefishandthefishisme,I’mfishingandI’malsobeingfished;likeplayingchess,thefishandIhavesuchanequalstaminathatIhaveawonderfultime.”Atthispoint,anurchinthrewastoneintothewater.Acircleofrippleswaftedover.Theoldmansaid,“Thewindrises.”
Lifeisachessgamewhilehappinessisdevotion.
烈日下，一老翁坐在岸边，两眼一动不动的盯着河面的浮标，从日出到日落，依然两手空空，老翁却怡然自得，乐在其中。我很是纳闷。老翁笑着说：“我即鱼，鱼即我，我在钓鱼，鱼也在钓我，就像下棋，我和鱼的耐力旗鼓相当，这才过瘾.”一顽童向水中扔一块石头，一阵波纹飘荡过来，老翁曰：“起风了。”人生就是一盘棋，而幸福就是投入。
美文赏析:Nexthappiness,whenwillcome？下一班幸福，几点开？
下一站会更幸福吗？没有人知道。那只是我们美好的愿望而已。如果这一刻感觉是对的，请珍惜。把握现在远比憧憬未来更实际。